Monday, April 25, 2016


There are certain periods in our life where we are filled with uncertainties, fears and really hopelessness. During those times, it is almost impossible to focus or even stay positive. All we can think about is all the negativity and bad things happening there and then and that is something that can drain all of our energy.
I find myself to be a very positive, dreamy person and honestly, I love that about myself. I think that this quality allows me to achieve great things that I wouldn't if I was a more "down to earth" kind of person.

Recently, there are a lot of thing happening around me. Things that not really include myself but my dear ones and they are not necessarily good things.
So today, I just thought on writing about how to be and stay positive when everything else around you crumbles.

It is the worst thing people could tell you when you are in a bad period of your life but it is true: everything will be fine, YOU will be fine. With time, things will get sorted. All you need is just a little patience.

Having a lot of things to do at once is not only exhausting but also increases your stress and consequently how positive you feel. Build a To Do List, create a schedule, prioritize your tasks for a much more organized and stress-free day. Bullet Journals are great for that - read my post about it here or here

Having the ability to find sometime positive in a bad situation is something that not all of us can say we have but it is a quality that we should all work on. Bad things happen to everybody - what changes is how you deal with the situation. Try to always learn from it by finding cherry on top of that horrible, moldy cake.

Healthy body, healthy mind - that is what they like to say. Yet, being 100% healthy is so hard and requires a lot of discipline and focus but if you gradually add new, healthy habits to your lifestyle, you will notice a big difference no only physically but mostly mentally. Try to drink more water for example, avoid fast food or all that rubbish food that we all love (sweets, crisps, chocolates.. oh my!). It will be worth it. 

I can't advise this enough. This is one of the main things to do if you want to remain positive and have good energies around you. Cut off people that don't believe in you, that only put you down or just pretend to be there for you when they aren't. You don't need them.

On the other hand, try to spread your great energy and positivity to others and you will receive much more in return.

I find that I had this problem where I couldn't accept 100% a critic, even if it was a constructive one. That changed with time and I am glad it did. Accepting criticism is one of the best things for self improvement and actually challenging yourself, believing that you can do better than that.

If you don't love yourself or even if you don't take time with yourself, you build up a lot of stress, anxiety and all that bad stuff - at least it happens to me. There is nothing that a pamper day won't solve. I just feel so much better with myself and with the world! Sometimes the fact that you are so negative and upset can be just because you are exhausted from this daily routine so stop for a minute, take some time for yourself (half an hour will do) and just enjoy!

I have said this before but I have noticed that people tend to focus so much more in the bad things that life brings instead of the good ones, mostly because the good ones are the little, everyday moments. Taking that minute before going to bed to be grateful for something makes such a big change! If you read my Bullet Journal Post, you may know that I have a "Gratitude Monthly Log" that I fill in everyday of the month and I love doing that. There is always something to be grateful for, - you just have to look in the little things.

This is such a challenge and competitive world to live but you either enjoy and do the most of it or you have lost the best time of your life.
You will always have the ones that will put you down and will try to stop you from doing what you want or love. The best way to win them? Prove them wrong! And that's all!

I really hope you enjoyed this post as much as I enjoyed writing it. Believe me that even acknowledging that I am one of the most positive, dreamy people that I know, I also have my down days where I just want to punch everyone and cry a little bit but, those days are gone once I follow all of these tips.

What do you do to stay positive when everyone else is trying otherwise?


  1. What a refreshing post! It was lovely to read something so positive :) I agree that taking some time for yourself is super important. Finding some 'me' time in between work, uni and seeing my friends, boyfriend and family can be tough, but even stealing half hour to watch a rerun of family guy whilst wearing a face mask makes me feel so much better! I also think spreading positivity when you're feeling down is a great idea, because you get back what you put out into the world!

    Laura | Lala London: Beauty & Lifestyle

  2. This was such a great post. Sometimes when you're having a bad day, it's easy to get caught up in all your negative thoughts and it can be a struggle to get out of that frame of mind.

    When I'm having a few down days, I try to remember that it's just a phase and it'll pass. It's important to take time for yourself and for me I find turning my negative energy into something positive (e.g. blogging) works really well! x

    Kathryn | Chapters of Kat

  3. This is such a lovely post! I couldn't agree with your last point more! xx

  4. Eleanor PritchardTuesday, April 26, 2016

    Such a great post and one that needs to be shared! Building up stress is something that I do well and it needs to stop! To do lists are a great idea :)

  5. Thank you for this post, Lisa! I've been struggling to stay positive recently and my boyfriend keeps saying "it'll be fine!" and it does my head in because it never feels like it will at the time haha. He is always right though and it does all work out. I'm in desperate need of some 'me time' but I'm so busy at the moment. To do lists are keeping me sane!

    Hannah xx

  6. This is such a helpful and wonderful post. I am so stressed with life at the minute, there is so many different things going on and i'm having more down days than up days. This post brought me back down and reminded me of what is important to remember.

    Liv x

  7. I can 100% relate to this! I do volunteer work for 5 hours a week, doing a full time degree, I have a job and my boyfriend lives in Leeds; 2 hours away. Put this in the mix with finding me time and time for socialising and it becomes very difficult! Face masks and just having pamper sessions and getting lost in a good book with a cup of tea seems to help me best.

    Liv x

  8. These are such great tips. I tend to let anything bad that's happening overwhelm everything else in my life, so lately I've been trying to teach myself to compartmentalise things. Yes, something bad may be happening, but it's only one aspect of my life, and I shouldn't let it spoil all the good things I have going for me! Not always easy, but I try! x

    Kate Louise Blogs

  9. It is really hard to focus on the positive things when you have something bad going on but we can never let that thing control our life xx

  10. I bet you need a pamper day at least twice a week to get away from all that stress haha x

  11. I am glad this post helped you! It really means a lot to me x a hope you are feeling a bit better now x

  12. Thank you . I am glad you liked this post x

  13. I am so glad you liked it ! Love your blog !! xx

  14. Thank you , I am so happy I could bring something positive with this post x

  15. The Sunday ModeSaturday, May 07, 2016

    Thanks, you've shared some great tips that I've appreciated reading. One thing I try to remember is that everything happens for a reason - when I look back on things from the past I can always see good things that have come out of all situations, the challenge can be seeing the silver lining at the time things are happening.