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Sunday, February 21, 2016

6 Things I have Learned While Living Abroad

You may or may not know that almost three years ago I was "forced" to move abroad. And I say "forced" because I would stay in Portugal if I could but the reality was that as a nurse, I would not get a job and if I did, I would get paid £2/hour like some people I know. That was not what I wanted for my life and so, because of all the politic's bad decisions and the condition that my country was, I was forced to move abroad.

Moving abroad is a major step in your life. Whether it was something you have always wanted to do or, like me, something you had to do, it is a big decision and a massive challenge. It is not easy and it probably never will be but from my experience I can say that it is totally worth it.
I decided to give a twist to this blog and put aside the beauty blog posts and bring to you something more personal. I love writing posts like this and I am planning to do it more often.
Today I am sharing with you six things I have learned from moving abroad.

Good friendships last forever. Bad ones will blow with the wind.
I have never had many friends but I always thought that the ones I had and have are the best ones ever. I also know that I am not the perfect friend and probably not the most caring in the world but one thing I do value is friendship. It does not matter how long we don't speak to each other as long as we both know that we will be there whenever is needed. I feel that that is what friendship is all about.
Being abroad and having a completely different routine and lifestyle than your friends is normal. But that will be the main reason why you stop talking so regularly. But with moving abroad I noticed that the good ones, my true friends, have been always there for me. And every time I go back to Portugal we meet, go for a coffee or a night out and share all of our stories from the last couple of months.

Grown up life is difficult but worth it.
I have always said that I could not wait for the day were I finished uni and started working. In my thoughts, working was easier than studying and bla bla bla. I was wrong, I admit. It is hard work, you feel exhausted and you can't just not work or pretend you are listening or sleep with your head on the table like those uni old times. But then again, it is worth it.
I love nursing and although it can be a very stressful work, it is very rewarding - personally and financially too. I cannot complaint. It is good to have that pay slip in the end of the month and being able to buy what you want, when you want or if you want to. I was never the one to ask my mom for stuff all the time so having now the freedom and being able to afford my little things and makeup obsessions is great. Also I have my house, my little corner with M. that we are renting and I love this. I love having my own routine, my own rules.
I still love everytime I go back home but I do miss doing things when I want to ! haha

Trust Nobody.
At least for the first months, believe me. I had a ruff start - a story to another post -, people that I thought that were supportive and would help me no matter what left me on the edge of the cliff and did not offer a little hand. The first employer I had was horrendous and exploited workers - specially foreign workers. I  had a bad time, seriously. And the only person I could trust was my boyfriend that was here with me and my family that was far, far away. Oh, and google while I was doing my research to get rid of them.
Nowadays I have a lot of more people who I could trust and would give me a hand if something happened. But in the begging you can be exploited without even knowing if you are not aware of your rights and what is correct or not. It happened to me and I am no fool. But bad things happen to good people and that is life.

You learn a LOT.
Like I said, I have had a ruff start and that thought me a lot. But even if everything goes smooth, moving abroad is a life lesson. You learn about a different culture, different ways of being in your life. You learn a LOT about yourself too - about your limits, your strengths and weakness.
I know I am not better than anyone else but I do know that this life journey made me wiser than any 24 year old women out there. It does not matter how old you are but the life you take. Life is what gives you wisdom.

Your Relationship gets Stronger.
Well, this is my personal experience and not everyone can be the same. But me and my boyfriend came together and at that time we were dating for two years. What we have be through since we moved to the UK has made us stronger persons but also a stronger couple.
We never ever had a big fight. We trust and support each other no matter what. We share a house and a life together and therefore this is how it should be. Of course that we have our disagreements but that is a normal, everyday life kind of thing!

You are Stronger than you Think.
I never thought I could handle being away from my family. I never thought I could do grown up things from one moment to another. I had no preparation or whatsoever.  I went from living in my parents house without paying any bills to moving to another country, my own house, paying those outstanding bills, It is a big change, a great challenge but never think you won't be capable of doing it. You will! Everything might look scary but you are stronger and wiser than you think. You are in control and everything will be alright.

This is a world of opportunities so, embrace them!

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11 comments :

  1. Ah it must be amazing to have the chance to live abroad! I would love to do it one day xx

    Gemma ♥ Miss Makeup Magpie

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  2. it is a nice opportunity and an amazing challenge! xx

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  3. It sounds really nice - a new adventure! :)
    - ambar x
    www.herlitteloves.blogspot.com

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  4. Relationships really change when you travel away from a place you've been your whole life.. I've never really lived in one place for long, so I've had to get used to it. At some point you just have to decide whether these relationships are what you want or if you'd rather be alone with your travel companion.
    www.MarinaSays.com || www.MadeinMoments.com

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  5. that is so true! Totally agree with you x I have visited your blog and really liked it. Followed you on bloglovin ! x

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  6. You would have been paid £2 an hour?! That's absolutely ridiculous and I can see why you had to leave, you couldn't live on that!

    This is a really informative post and I look forward to seeing more like it! Personally, I haven't moved abroad but instead just moved to another county in England which was necessary for both work and my relationship. Many of the above tips apply to my experiences of moving away from my home county but I feel moving countries would be on a much grander scale.

    It's good that you and your partner have come out of it stronger and good luck with everything!

    Issy | MissIsGoode xox

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  7. Yes, £2 an hour. Things are getting better there but they were pretty bad a couple of years ago. Moving abroad was one of the best decisions I have ever made but I still want to go back to Portugal one day.
    Moving county is a big challenge but moving countries is even bigger specially because of the language barrier. And also the different "rules" and stuff..

    Thank you for your comment xx

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  8. I love this post - it's so nice to see what people have gone through and everything we go through makes us a better and stronger person! Life is full of opportunities so we need to go out there and make things happen!

    Well done to you, I'm glad that you're happy and still have your true friends when you return home! :)

    Layla xx

    http://www.sprinklesofstyle.co.uk

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  9. I will be moving to the UK soon myself and since I had been there so many times before I feel like I know what to expect. I think a lot of women at the age of 24 have experienced a great deal and have had to make difficult choices, so you aren't alone. I know people who had to start living on their own since the age of 17 and didn't have a family or a boyfriend to depend on. Seems like you are lucky enough to have both those things. You got to experience something completely exciting and new. It may not have been easy, but it seems like it was worth it. I enjoyed reading your post, and have subscibed because I feel like your blog is relevant to my life. :D

    Heba xx || The Heba

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  10. Thank you so much for your kind comment. Although I had some ruff times I can say that I am lucky enough to have someone by my side . A lot of people don't and it just makes everything harder.
    I will check your blog when I get home !! 😊😊

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